How to Teach Kids Perseverance and Goal-Setting

7 Goal-Setting Strategies

shutterstock_96935756.jpgAt some time or another, everyone experiences this with their kids…they seem to have potential, whether in their school work or a sport they love, but they either do not want to study or to practice their skill. Sometimes boys or girls just cannot focus.

shutterstock_111902090.jpgAll parents share that sense of frustration when their child doesn't try hard enough to accomplish something they know s/he's perfectly capable of. What can you do? One way to foster a can-do attitude is to help your child learn to set goals and meet them, one small step at a time.

shutterstock_97315025.jpgDon't get too excited: You probably won't be able to get your child to start aiming for straight A's right away. That kind of goal would be a major challenge for a pre-teen. But experts say this is an ideal time to introduce your child to the concept of establishing targets and working toward them. Try these strategies to teach your child the power of goal setting so s/he'll eventually learn how to work to achieve his best.

Get the Idea Across
shutterstock_2358630.jpgStart the process by looking for ways that your child already uses goal-setting techniques.
If you notice that your son has managed to save up his money to buy a video game, for example, discuss the steps he needed to take to get what he wanted. Talk to him about how good it feels to accomplish something that you've worked toward. Then, discuss how these same techniques can be used to meet other challenges.

shutterstock_99088586.jpgStart Small
Help your child think of a fun goal she could achieve within a short time.
Maybe she could finish a book she started or complete a craft project. Experts say that little goals are the best way to get kids moving towards big goals.  When a kid meets a goal, they get an incredible surge of energy.

Let Them Choose
As much as you might want your child to make the honor roll, it's best to let your kid decide what she wants to achieve.
Then you can help her make a plan. Some goals require more input from you. If learning to figure skate is your kid's dream, you're going to have to help her set and achieve her targets. If parents find they're nagging or getting angry that their child isn't working hard enough to meet a goal, that's a signal they need to back off.

shutterstock_93441670.jpgBe Alert to Possibilities
If your child says, "I wish I could win a prize in the science fair this year," use it as an opportunity to assist him in creating a plan.
Help him write down specific action steps and a timetable for accomplishing this goal.  Then check in with him from time to time to help keep him focused on his targets.

Show Them How
Adults have a much greater sense of what it takes to accomplish goals. So include your child in your own goal-setting to show her how the process works. Say you want to create a garden. Get your child involved in everything from researching plants to turning the dirt. Adults know how to break a goal down into steps, and that's something kids need to learn.

Provide a Reality Check
Children often underestimate how hard it can be to meet a goal,
and then they get frustrated and discouraged when they fall short. If your child decides he wants to play the guitar, for instance, be encouraging but realistic. Point out the challenges and the dedication it will require. The idea isn't to make the goal seem too daunting, but rather to share in the seriousness of the undertaking by helping plan it out.

shutterstock_74623222.jpgApplaud Effort
As your child begins to set goals and work toward them, don't forget the compliments.
Say something like, "I'm really impressed. When you care about something you really go after it!"

Adhering to a course of action, a belief, or a purpose, especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement.

When we persevere, we:

    * Do our best with what we have.

    * Keep trying; we don't quit or give up easily.

    * Never make excuses for obstacles that get in the way of getting something done. Instead we look for ways to remove or work around the obstacles.

shutterstock_114481585.jpg"The Race."
This poem exemplifies perseverance. The last few lines of the poem read:

    For all of life is like a race, with ups and downs and all.

    And all you have to do to win is rise each time you fall.

    "Quit!" "Give up, you're beaten!" They still shout in my face.

    But another voice within me says,"GET UP AND WIN THE RACE!"

Spend some time with your child explaining the importance of "staying the course" and doing the best you can. And, read "The Race" together. You will be glad you did.


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